I don't think you need to go into it anymore if you don't want to. I have been childless by choice my whole life and had a tubal ligation very early. I never had any interest in children or motherhood and also felt much better knowing that, as uncertain as the future is, one big derailment in any plans would not be kids.
Your discussion of the two times you wondered about doing so reminded me of a friend who did want kids with her first husband, and they even planned where they would go and what they'd do to create a domestic life. To keep things short, they ended up divorcing and he lived out their plans with someone else. Even at the time of her marriage she realized that much of what kept her in the relationship was that desire for motherhood as time ticked on. Later when she met her second husband, who didn't want kids, she discovered that it really wasn't necessary for her any more either. They've been happily married for over 25 years now and she's glad they didn't go that route.
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Date: 2024-10-01 01:26 am (UTC)Your discussion of the two times you wondered about doing so reminded me of a friend who did want kids with her first husband, and they even planned where they would go and what they'd do to create a domestic life. To keep things short, they ended up divorcing and he lived out their plans with someone else. Even at the time of her marriage she realized that much of what kept her in the relationship was that desire for motherhood as time ticked on. Later when she met her second husband, who didn't want kids, she discovered that it really wasn't necessary for her any more either. They've been happily married for over 25 years now and she's glad they didn't go that route.