>> I've never thought of that before... but they can deny you care for that?? <<
Any attempt to resist "company policy" is often met with "then I can't help you." They can do anything they want, as long as they don't annoy people with power. The most that victims can usually do in protest, if they have these freedoms, is leave without treatment and/or seek a new provider -- and nowadays, tell 2000 of your friends online. But even if you have freedom of choice, it's not much use when most or all medics are doing the same vicious things.
Then they bitch when people don't come to them and don't tell them things. Well duh. So yeah, if care is shitty and abusive, people will often avoid it if they possibly can.
>> I didn't know about the colleges... that's scary, too. <<
It's something I've heard a reference to more than once, although it doesn't seem ubiquitous.
I'm also aggravated by the fashion industry, which went from controlling women's bodies by mandating maximum weights for models ... to controlling women's bodies by mandating minimum weights after people bitched about the maximums. As if the problem wasn't controlling women's bodies in the first place. >_<
>> It's honestly just scary living in a world like this.<<
Sadly so. I find it less worth my while to go out in. After all, if I stay home, the wildlife doesn't give a flying fuck about how I look as long as I fill the feeders, pour the water, and plant the landscaping. This is altogether better company than 99.9% of humans.
>> I feel like a-lot of judgement is made within the first few minutes of meeting someone.<<
Most people do that. Me, I'll take a first impression, but I don't imagine that it tells me much about the person. It takes time to get to know someone. A first impression is just ... * Is this person wearing any kind of signal suggestive of a group I favor? (pride flag, tie-dye, spacescape, etc.) * Or conversely, a danger signal? (a huge cross or American flag, or worse, a confederate flag) * Do they seem safe to approach? * Do they seem useful to something I'm trying to do?
Body size/shape doesn't tell me a lot. A person with serious muscles would be more threat in a fight, but without any other signal, doesn't tell me if they're prone to picking fights. A person with a super fit and sexy body might be a mean girl, but I'd get more of that from fashion mode than physique alone.
>> And that isn't fair at all. We are so much more than what our body shows.<<
Most humans can't even figure out that they are not their body. This causes a lot of problems. Me, it's just a meatsuit I'm wearing for not even a century. It's outright misleading if you think the package tells you much about the contents. Though if you watch my body language you can clock some of the other things that I am.
>> My heart breaks for all of those people who had to g through these experiences. <<
Yeah. There are worse examples than weight, though. Society is downright brutal to people with facial differences, or no face.
I think the biggest issue with weight is that it affects everyone because the whole society is just soaked in prejudice and misconceptions -- and everyone has a weight, and no weight is safe from criticism. The sheer scope is what makes it devastating.
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Any attempt to resist "company policy" is often met with "then I can't help you." They can do anything they want, as long as they don't annoy people with power. The most that victims can usually do in protest, if they have these freedoms, is leave without treatment and/or seek a new provider -- and nowadays, tell 2000 of your friends online. But even if you have freedom of choice, it's not much use when most or all medics are doing the same vicious things.
Then they bitch when people don't come to them and don't tell them things. Well duh. So yeah, if care is shitty and abusive, people will often avoid it if they possibly can.
>> I didn't know about the colleges... that's scary, too. <<
It's something I've heard a reference to more than once, although it doesn't seem ubiquitous.
I'm also aggravated by the fashion industry, which went from controlling women's bodies by mandating maximum weights for models ... to controlling women's bodies by mandating minimum weights after people bitched about the maximums. As if the problem wasn't controlling women's bodies in the first place. >_<
>> It's honestly just scary living in a world like this.<<
Sadly so. I find it less worth my while to go out in. After all, if I stay home, the wildlife doesn't give a flying fuck about how I look as long as I fill the feeders, pour the water, and plant the landscaping. This is altogether better company than 99.9% of humans.
>> I feel like a-lot of judgement is made within the first few minutes of meeting someone.<<
Most people do that. Me, I'll take a first impression, but I don't imagine that it tells me much about the person. It takes time to get to know someone. A first impression is just ...
* Is this person wearing any kind of signal suggestive of a group I favor? (pride flag, tie-dye, spacescape, etc.)
* Or conversely, a danger signal? (a huge cross or American flag, or worse, a confederate flag)
* Do they seem safe to approach?
* Do they seem useful to something I'm trying to do?
Body size/shape doesn't tell me a lot. A person with serious muscles would be more threat in a fight, but without any other signal, doesn't tell me if they're prone to picking fights. A person with a super fit and sexy body might be a mean girl, but I'd get more of that from fashion mode than physique alone.
>> And that isn't fair at all. We are so much more than what our body shows.<<
Most humans can't even figure out that they are not their body. This causes a lot of problems. Me, it's just a meatsuit I'm wearing for not even a century. It's outright misleading if you think the package tells you much about the contents. Though if you watch my body language you can clock some of the other things that I am.
>> My heart breaks for all of those people who had to g through these experiences. <<
Yeah. There are worse examples than weight, though. Society is downright brutal to people with facial differences, or no face.
https://www.bbc.com/news/education-50167927
https://web.archive.org/web/20211117123226/https://aboutfaceyork.com/2021/11/the-movement-for-face-equality/
I think the biggest issue with weight is that it affects everyone because the whole society is just soaked in prejudice and misconceptions -- and everyone has a weight, and no weight is safe from criticism. The sheer scope is what makes it devastating.